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Part 3: Of Intentions and Responsibilities – Unearthing the Invisible Impact

In part 2 of this series, I introduced the concept of responsibility at individual and social levels. In this chapter, we delve into the crucial role of intention in responsibility, underlining the importance of conscientiousness even in the littlest tasks.

The Invisible Impact of Our Actions

People are constantly watching how we act. We may not know it until we reach out to others to recommend us for a role, and we feel dismayed when we catch a hesitation in their demeanour or pleasantly surprised, depending on the situation.

We ponder the reason but cannot ascertain why they passed us for someone else on the job; this is akin to LinkedIn recommendations; there, when we endorse someone’s skills, we affirm our belief in their abilities and capacity to excel.

When someone recommends another for a role, they automatically take responsibility for the person they recommend. If that person falls short of the endorsement, the recipient may hesitate to seek future recommendations.

Hence, we want to give our best when it’s time for us to put someone forward because we are entering into a trust with the recommended and the recipient of the recommendation. But before we get to this stage where people ask for our thoughts in recommending another, we start from within by building ourselves towards being worthy of becoming recommended.

Performing Roles with Good Intentions

If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michaelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, ‘Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well

Martin Luther King Jr.

When I think of ‘responsibility,’ I think of action imbued with ‘good work.‘ An adage in Igbo goes, ‘Ozi adịghị nwata mma, o je ya nje na abụ.’ The literal translation of this proverb is: ‘If an errand is not good for a child, the child goes on the errand twice.

I grew up hearing my grandparents and older aunts and uncles use the above phrase to emphasise the role of intention in responsibility.

This literal translation encapsulates a specific thought process from the Igbo culture: if a child believes an errand or ‘responsibility’ is beneath them and, as a result, does not perform it well initially (perhaps finding various ways to avoid the task), the sender will ensure they repeat the errand until they execute the chore satisfactorily. In this context, whether the errand is deemed suitable for the child is decided by the adult and not the child.

For instance, if an adult sends a child to buy crayfish from the market, and the child throws a tantrum for about 30 minutes, gets distracted playing street football, and comes back 2.5 hours later with Moi Moi instead, the sender would wonder about the relationship between Crayfish and Moi Moi before sending the child back to the task. 

Sending the child a second time to the market might not be all the repercussions the child has to bear from the task assigned to them. The sender may also have to punish this child to instil some sense of value, discipline, and responsibility in them.

Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.

Steve Jobs’ 2005 Stanford Commencement Address

Performing a role with good intentions means seeing a task as not just an assignment, but an opportunity to take ownership and make an impact. Some people call it ‘the calling.’ The calling is why many influencers advocate for making our passion our job. Steve Jobs called it ‘doing great work’ and endorsed it in his commencement address to the 2005 set of Stanford graduates.

The energy and dedication we bring to this responsibility and how we respond can significantly influence the outcome. Expressions such as ‘you did it with so much love, are not merely feedback; they highlight the tangible impact of our heart-filled efforts.

This connection between intention and output was something I grasped at an early age. I remember an instance from childhood when, after tasting a meal I had prepared, my uncle queried, ‘Ifunanya, were you in a bad mood when you made this?’ I cannot remember my emotional state at the time, but his question underlined a truth that has stuck with me: our attitudes and intentions, even when unseen, leaves an imprint on our actions.

Nigerians use ‘yeye dey smellWhen breeze blow, fowl nyash go open‘ to convey that nobody can hide the truth. Just as the wind can blow to expose what the chicken was sitting on, so too can life events reveal the true intent behind an action.

Consider the case of renting apartments in Lagos, Nigeria. Lagosians share an experience of inheriting house issues from a newly rented apartment. Property owners often build their houses with substandard products that break easily and cause a lot of frustration for their occupants. Eventually, when this occurs, the landlord ends up being equally affected, as was my case when one of the toilets in my house broke and had to be knocked down and rebuilt. The previous one kept leaking water into my neighbour’s apartment downstairs, and it became messy. Eventually, my landlord’s attempt to save money by building with less quality materials became futile, as he lost more money due to the repairs. I have lost count of the numerous issues I have faced in my current house: from leaking toilets to leaking walls, to a leaking roof, to faulty electrical appliances, to a shaky floor. At one point, I wondered if my apartment would fall on me. One of my neighbours left before his one-year rent was due, and nobody has called to check on the house since he left.

A recurring question around moral consequences is: if someone will eventually have to fulfil a responsibility or a role, either assigned to them or chosen by them, out of duty or for their profession, should they not approach it with good intentions?

Conclusions in Preparation for the Next Part

In a world where our actions echo louder than our words, our intentions shape the resonance of our responsibilities. As we journey through life, it is crucial to remember that the ‘tasks’ we deem beneath us today could well be the stepping stones for tomorrow’s triumphs. Let us embrace Steve Jobs and Martin Luther King Jr.’s words, striving to approach our role, no matter how routine or small, with love, good intentions, an open heart and a focused mind, recognising that our responsibility speaks to our character.

Thank you for reading. I hope you enjoyed this section as much as I did writing it. The next part will explore the role of action and reason in responsibility and how we can move together as a community.

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Part 2: The Interconnectedness of Responsibility and Its Impact on Society

In part 1 of this series, I shared a personal struggle that inspired this reflection on responsibility, intention, and action. Now, let’s delve deeper into this sensitive topic that carries so much weight in our lives, relationships, and societies.

The topic of responsibility and intention holds dear in my heart. I have initiated numerous conversations with those willing to engage, seeking to understand the root of neglecting responsibility, evasion of fault and explain why it matters in every relationship.

From first-hand experience, I understand that when someone avoids taking responsibility, someone else must shoulder the burden of that action, which means bearing responsibility for another’s irresponsibility. Many may resonate with this, as I have often found myself playing the role of the person who has to take responsibility for someone else’s inactions.

We witness a lack of responsibility in different contexts; in the professional setting, when an employee fails to fulfil their task, someone else must step in to complete the work. Outside work, when a child, sibling, spouse, friend, or parent neglects personal responsibility, others around them may feel obligated to step in; this could be a sibling who cleans up after another, a friend who excuses their friend’s behaviour, a spouse or parent who covers their partner’s or child’s mistake, or even a child stepping in for a parent.

These situations depict the ease with which responsibility can transfer from one person to another. This dynamic raises significant questions: to what extent should individuals continue to shoulder additional burdens on behalf of others, and how can we motivate others to assume responsibility for their actions?

What is Responsibility?

Responsibility is a duty associated with our actions. The Cambridge Dictionary defines responsibility as ‘something that it is your job or duty to deal with.‘ This concept refers to an expectation or obligation to act in certain ways to achieve particular outcomes. Responsibility prompts questions such as ‘What do I need to do?’ ‘What is expected of me?’ and ‘What choices must I make in this scenario?’

Responsibility can take many forms, and we can categorise it into direct or indirect. Direct responsibility encompasses duties and obligations we assign ourselves, which stems from past decisions and choices. They are more individualistic, originating from personal decisions made independent of others. These might include personal goals, self-improvement tasks, or commitments we make to ourselves. Direct responsibility could vary from exercising regularly, starting a course to more complex ones like starting a family and raising a child.

In contrast, indirect responsibility involves duties assigned to us by others, typically related to our occupied roles. These responsibilities may result from our social roles, societal norms and expectations, or tasks assigned to us by others. In our professional lives, these might include tasks assigned by a manager or responsibilities that inherently come with our job role. In our personal lives, these could be duties or roles associated with being part of a family or community, like caring for a sick family member. These responsibilities are generally less voluntary and more prescribed by our circumstances or others.

How Does Individual Responsibility Affect The Society Around Us?

Individual responsibility plays a crucial role in every functioning system. From the intricacies of a bustling city to the regimented societies of ants and bees, if a single cog in this machine fails to fulfil its duty, the entire system is at risk. This principle applies to a worker bee gathering nectar as much as it does to a human maintaining essential utilities.

Consider the role of an obstetrician in a local clinic responsible for delivering a baby. A delay or failure in their job can endanger the expecting mother’s life. A visiting surgeon, faced with a coinciding surgical operation, may have to make difficult decisions. If the mother is in distress and the surgeon’s other patient isn’t too critical, the surgeon might extend her schedule to assist with the delivery. The ripple effects of these decisions and outcomes can significantly impact multiple lives.

In the animal kingdom, the roles of workers, soldiers, and breeders in ants, bees, and termites, or hunters, defenders, and babysitters in wolf packs, are all crucial for survival. While it’s often argued that animals lack moral judgment, with actions primarily driven by instinct, nature, and the imperative to survive and reproduce, they still reflect a form of responsibility essential to the survival and reproduction of their species. However, in human societies, the concept of responsibility goes beyond basic survival, involving moral and ethical implications.

As we turn our attention back to human society, we see that acceptance and execution of responsibility are integral to the smooth functioning of our communities. When an individual assumes responsibility, they accept accountability for their actions. This acceptance contributes to trust, fairness, cooperation, and mutual respect for those involved.

Consider two examples of internal dialogue:

  • ‘I need to do my job, so that my customers can trust me.’
  • ‘If I don’t study my lessons, I won’t pass the exams, and I won’t make OAU. How will I help my family? Thus, I need to study my lessons.’

These examples showcase two individuals with different goals and values. The first person sees the need to do their job well to earn customer trust. The second person contemplates the practical implications of not studying, linking it to their broader life goal of helping their family.

Individual responsibility often starts when one can link their choice to their purpose, as illustrated with the two individuals in the dialogue.

In line with the saying, ‘charity begins at home,’ it stands to reason that one cannot assume responsibility for another without first taking responsibility for oneself. Hence, direct responsibility feeds into indirect responsibility, and in this way, we move from the ‘I’ to the ‘altruistic.’ Personal responsibility can evolve into a broader, altruistic responsibility toward others in our community.

Let us also consider different scenarios involving two adults and a child in varying environments.

If two adults mutually decide to start a family, they share the responsibility for nurturing any children that result from this decision.

There will be expectations for the child to perform some familial roles and for the family members to be responsible members of their community. By becoming part of a society, we inherit responsibilities like understanding and adhering to social norms, being considerate and respectful of others, and contributing to the community. Nonetheless, being a responsible member of society is a continual journey of learning and personal growth, necessitating a commitment to the shared principles of justice, fairness, and mutual respect.

Thank you for reading. As we progress in this series, I encourage you to reflect on your understanding of responsibility. How do you view your responsibilities, and how do they influence your societal roles? Share your thoughts in the comments below. In the next part of this series, we will delve deeper into responsibility, exploring the role of intention, action, and reason and discussing how we can move together as a community.

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Part 1: The Real-Life Struggles that Spark Reflections on Responsibility

This story marks the beginning of my reflections on responsibility, intention, and action. Stay tuned for the rest of the series.

The Broken Pump and the Waiting Game

As I write this story, I use all my willpower to stay strong and not succumb to the urge to use the bathroom. I find myself hoping, praying, and willing the plumber to arrive, as I had successfully gotten through to him 22 minutes ago when he called me to ask the estate security to let him in.

I hear the sound of the gate and peep through my window; it is the plumber, who I will refer to as Mayowa for the sake of this story.

Mayowa was not new to our house; we had inherited him from our landlord shortly after renting the apartment. With the numerous issues that came with the house, we always brought them to the landlord’s attention; his immediate response was, ‘Ifunanya, I have called Mayowa. He’s on his way.’ And yes, he would be on his way, but often 9 hours after he had promised to arrive.

I sigh with relief. I might be able to hold on for another 30 minutes. Or perhaps an hour? I attempt a rough calculation of how long it will take to fix the pumping machine – Argh, I am not sure. I can’t make a reliable estimate. But whenever Mayowa and his companion are able to fix it, it should take another hour for them to pump the water up before it reaches our apartment.

Frustration courses through me as I grapple, yet again, with the bitter reality of broken promises.

This experience was not how I envisioned starting my exploration into responsibility. I have numerous tabs open on my browser, filled with materials to guide my understanding of responsibility, motives, and intention – all to support my narrative on the subject: ‘Understanding Responsibility and the Impact of Actions.’

Argh, where was I? 

By 08:00 AM, I had phoned Mayowa to follow up on his plans to install our new pumping machine. The old one had failed yesterday, leaving us without water. Mayowa had come to pick up the broken machine, promising that if he didn’t manage to return with it repaired yesterday, he would undoubtedly be back to install it this morning.

When I called him, I had hoped he would be on his way. Alas, he was not. He had taken the machine to someone else to repair it – I don’t understand this other person’s role here. However, Mayowa was going to retrieve the pumping machine from him by 10:00 AM, as agreed between them.

The Struggles of a Night Without Water

The waterless night was a challenging ordeal. Having gone to bed without bathing and after multiple attempts to use the same unflushed toilet, I finally reached a breaking point and couldn’t bring myself to do it again. So, I peed in the shower each time, using the remaining water in the bucket to rinse it off. The pee smell was beginning to ooze through the closed doors as my bowels rolled uncomfortably, pressing me with the urge to relieve myself.

However, I survived the night, mostly. 

The Broken Promise and Unmet Expectations

At 10:00 AM, I phoned Mayowa to confirm we were on track. He was on his way to meet with the person. I hung up, counting the time he would get there and here. I called at 11 but was disappointed to hear the man hadn’t started whatever he was supposed to do with the machine. His excuse was that there was no electricity. After hanging up, I followed up with Mayowa every half hour, and his excuse was more elaborate than the previous one.

His responses varied from ‘Madam, the man is almost done’ to ‘I’m on my way.’ At 1:00 PM, he was on his way. At 2:00 PM, he claimed to be at my estate entrance, but by 2:30 PM, I couldn’t reach his phone. At a point, I prayed he wasn’t involved in an accident. At 3:00 PM, I slept off with my phone in my hand, praying that I don’t develop a condition for not going to the toilet. When I woke at 4:00 PM, I rushed to my bathroom sink, holding my breath as I turned it on. A sinking feeling came over me as I realised that the water trickling from the tap was just residue from the previous pumping.

Mayowa had not come. I found myself pondering my next move: should I lodge my family in a hotel? But the expense would be astronomical!

At 4:09 PM, Mayowa’s call came in. ‘Ma, please, call your gate for me.’

I hissed.

I let myself write for a while after hearing Mayowa enter our compound to slow down my whirring thoughts. I was determined to confront him about his lack of responsibility, which is starting to seem like my favourite topic. It is okay to be angry, I say to myself, but I was not going to let my anger get the better of me. I will express myself clearly and let him see why I am angry.

Confronting Mayowa and Contemplating Responsibility

Finally, I went downstairs, and as I shut the door, my eyes met with Mayowa’s as he broke into a smile. I didn’t know what to make of the smile, so I asked in a voice that almost gave away my emotions, ‘Mayowa, why are you smiling? I am angry with you.’

He immediately started talking and apologising about how it wasn’t his fault, but I wouldn’t let him.

‘Mayowa, it is your fault. When you left this compound with the pumping machine, you became responsible for it. I trusted you when you said you were coming in the morning. But from 10:00 AM to 4:00 PM? No, this is not how we do things.’

I am waiting upstairs, in my room, as they fix the pumping machine downstairs. I hope and pray with all my might that the Power Holding Company of Nigeria (PHCN) will not suddenly cut off the electricity; it will be heartbreaking if that happens.

And shortly after I wrote the above, the power went out. 

I smile bitterly. It’s 5:05 PM.

I ponder on Mayowa’s defence – ‘It’s not my fault.’ This denial reminds me of the old nursery rhyme – ‘Mr. Nobody.‘ In this rhyme, ‘Mr. Nobody,’ an unseen character, is always responsible for all the mischief in the neighbourhood. Mayowa had become a real-life ‘Mr. Not-My-Fault,’ refusing to acknowledge his role in the situation.

I can’t help but wonder: if it isn’t Mayowa’s fault, then whose is it?

As I sit here waiting, still without water, I realise that understanding responsibility is a lot more complicated than it seems.

Thank you for reading. In the next part of this series, we will explore the concept of responsibility and how it can play out in various scenarios.